Who are you? Who are you really? Not who did your parents raise you to be? Not who does your family, friends, children expect you to be? But who are you actually?
Feeling lost? Think about questions like these
When you are feeling lost and confused, we often think we have lost who we are. One of the first steps is to take time to stop and look inward. You can do this verbally, or creatively, through art or writing, song writing, drama, dance. But take some time and consider questions like these. And by the way, its OK if you can’t answer some or even all of them. Then you have a starting place!
- What are your strengths?
- What are your triggers and your weaknesses?
- Where do you feel comfortable?
- Where are the edges of your comfort zone?
- Who are you?
I bet that you can answer some of those questions and maybe there’s some that you have never thought of before, or that are really hard to answer. I challenge you to ask the questions.
Describe yourself
Could you describe in 50 words or less, maybe a couple of sentences? Can you put together a description of yourself that you are comfortable with, that you’re happy with? I suggest that if you can, then that would be a helpful thing for you to do.
I think it makes our decisions easier. It makes it easier to find your way and make your choices when you’re clear on who you are.
Remember you can change over time!
And I have to add that who you are can change over time, for sure. And the parts that you take for granted, and the parts that you want to work on and build up, that changes over time. That’s okay, no judgement about that. Things happen in life that definitely change the direction of your path. It’s okay.
I think the important thing is that if you answer “honestly I don’t know”. Then that’s an area that you could work on. That’s something that you could think about, do some writing about, do some artwork about, to try and figure out and become more confident and comfortable with who you are.
Identify your values
You might look at your values. There’s lots of resources online to help you figure this out and it’s something I do with clients to help identify values. And that’s not ” value my family, I value my kids”. It’s attributes. Things like creativity, honesty. There’s so many, hundreds. If you can identify your top values, that can help give you powerful direction. If you can identify where you want to be, what you want to do in life.
There’s power in knowing the genuine you
I think it’s a really helpful thing to do, to overcome the challenges in your life and it’s a tool that I use with my clients. So who are you? Comment below – I would be a very willing audience to hear your description of who you are. This is Dione from After the Rain Arts Therapy online.
